Collaborate Consulting regularly provides insight to researchers and academics studying LGBTQ parenting, transgender fertility, and more!

Collaborate Consulting has worked with several media outlets to tell smart LGBTQ family-building stories with grace and integrity. Here’s one example!

Often, if we find ourselves surrounded by like-minded people, we may not have many opportunities to interrupt racist attitudes or actions. It’s not like racism isn’t happening; we simply don’t see it because it’s not as overt. If you’re interested in honing your lens so you can pick up on more subtle forms of racism, this is a great tool to get you started!

This model is used to map your own white anti-racist identity development AND to assess where on the scale other white people are, so you can better understand how to reach them and move them along on their process towards anti-racism.

Sometimes, kids say things that we perceive to be rooted in racist ideas or beliefs. But simply telling a child that what they’ve said is racist may not be the best way of building a lifelong commitment to anti-racism. What should you say instead? Here’s a tool to help!

I’ve been receiving lots of DM’s from parents who want to raise socially conscious kids but aren’t sure where to start. I thought I would film a little video of Hailey and I chatting about her opinion on parents sharing tough subjects with their kids.

Land, bread, housing, education, clothing, justice and peace. There is a reason we don’t all know the incredible depth of organizing that the Panthers did. The movement was successfully stymied after a gruesome nation-wide campaign to discredit and destroy it…

Here is an example of a media partnership between Collaborate Consulting and TLC, for the show Lost in Transition.

There are times when you, as an ally, feel called to step in and intervene when you see an incident of racial bias. Here is a practical, evidence-based five-step tool for interrupting bias when you see it.

What a whirlwind these past few weeks have been. In our house, we’re hustling to find “the new normal” for all of us, which includes transitioning the big kids to homeschooling. Hailey especially has been missing the connection to other students and the intellectual stimulation of the classroom, which is why we’ve signed her up for iD Tech’s virtual tech camp!

But recently, I was speaking with an acupuncturist-in-training and learned that “yin” and “yang” actually refer to the light side and the dark side of a mountain—and my mind exploded. With this new analogy came a new way of thinking about something that’s been marketed as binary for so long. If we saw gender not as two opposing forces, but rather as two sides of the same mountain, how might that change the journey of self we’re all on? 

Before we became parents we were living in a super swanky apartment in Hollywood, California. We’d put on our trendy outfits, go out on cute dates followed by late-night drinks and dancing, only to return home and sleep until 1pm the next day. We’d awake looking young and refreshed. Having kids brought all of this to a grinding, abrupt halt.

I first heard about the Five Love Languages at a “Healthy Relationships” workshop at a trans leadership training in Los Angeles—and my mind was blown. It was 2013, Biff and I had been dating for two years, and I didn’t feel like he really cared about me because he never held my hand or kissed me in public…

I train hundreds of people every year, covering many aspects of competency around transgender issues. I teach people how to use gender-neutral pronouns, how to make it right when they’ve made a mistake, how to create bias-free classrooms… and more. But one of the most common and hard to answer questions I get is this: How do I say the right thing all the time?

I try hard not to label myself as being “not into something.” But let’s face it… there are just some things I am not into. I am not into sports. I am not into car racing. And I am not into trucks. But when we decided to go to Oregon’s premier sacred music festival, Beloved, I imagined how nice it would be to have a truck.

If you plan to take any public stance on social justice issues, trolls WILL find you. Their racist, homophobic, transphobic, sexist diatribes will leak out all over your page. And when you leave them up, you are making the internet a more toxic place for people like me (and people like you!) who have to read it. I implore you— use a service to help clear your channels of these toxic messages.

Riley has always had to work hard to focus on what was happening in front of him, and has often struggled to stay in a positive mindset. When he was seven, we had him assessed so we would have a better sense of what he might need from us in terms of supports. I thought I was ready for whatever might come up during those assessments, but when the pediatric psychologist gently told us that Riley met all the criteria for ADHD, I was shocked…

When you’re pregnant (and even after you give birth), everyone has opinions for you. And for some reason, most of these advice-givers don’t seem able to simply share what worked for them... instead, they all seem convinced that their way is The Right Way and all other ways will inevitably lead to Doom and Gloom for you, your partner (if you have one), and your baby…

This National Reading Month, we are partnering with Amazon to make sure you’re providing your family with books that will help prepare them to be proud allies and friends to LGBTQ+ families!

Ah, the dreaded/dreamed-about family road trip. Biff and I have taken dozens of trips with the kids, and boy have we had some mega successes and some horrific failures. Here are some tips we’ve developed over the years to help us cope with family road trips!